The effort a child makes is largely based on the message she hears. When a child knows someone will excuse her, she will not work.
No matter how difficult the task or the situation, the child must be pushed to continue her quest. She may not achieve the ultimate goal, but by working forward, she will not doubt, achieve more than she first expected.
While you allow your child to wallow in her own self doubt, and frustration, there will be another parent who is making no excuses for his child. Very shortly your child will be eclipsed by the children who are not excused from hard work.
I continue to watch society explain how someone is downtrodden, and can’t do better than his lot in life. Simply put, telling a child he can’t, means he won’t.
For nearly half of my career I taught intelligent kids who experienced limited, academic success. (Yes, that’s possible) Most of the students initially entered my program defensive, and with low confidence. I could very well have empathized with them. Instead, I allowed no excuses. I expected every student to not only pass, but they were also going to excel. And that’s exactly what they did. Communicating my confidence in their intelligence, made them believers and ultimately, successful students.
No one has confidence in a child, like a parent. Push your kids toward success.
God bless your family.
holymoleyeducation 
Very astute observation, pushing a student requires parental help and participation too. It may be contacting teachers and hearing things you do not agree with, or asking how you can help. It may take time out of your schedule to accommodate one on one time with a teacher when they are making time for tutoring or getting them help beyond the classroom also. It may also necessitate you spending time with your student at the kitchen table every night walking him through some of his assignments. The greatest problem I see is parents who think they can not do their kids math homework and are embarrassed about it, don’t be it’s been a long time since you did it do not try to fool your child if you don’t know just explain that to them and if they do not have explicit notes on how to do it, GooGle it and see what the two of you can come up with together, Youtube has wonderful lessons for all levels of understanding. It’s hard to convince a kid that it’s important if you are not willing to take the time to try with them. Please attach a note to your child’s homework and let the teacher know “WE” are confused on this but we tried and showed our work. This is extremely helpful to the teacher when explaining where they went astray.
The difference between my students with the best grades and the students with less than stellar grades is their outlook on the process and willingness to try again.
Thank you, Moatsy. You are spot on!