If I hadn’t heard this myself, I might not believe it.
I struck up a conversation with a young, inter-city, occupational therapist. Reflecting on her early career, she was quick to say, “Mothers are working so hard surviving, they can’t teach their children to walk and talk.”
(Thought bubble)
WHAAAA??,
Did I hear this right?
Nooooo … nooo
Miss Occupational Therapist went on to explain how … “poor people cannot teach their children the simplest things, because they are overcome with the job of living.”
My head was reeling.
(Thought bubble)
~simmer down Mary, she’s young and idealistic
~Angela’s Ashes, the poorest mothers of all, leading their kids through devastating poverty
~ there’s no greater joy than witnessing your child’s ‘firsts’, especially when one has so little
~ this girl is a nice lady ~ she means well
~Do I I?
~ Don’t I?
Nope!
I refuse to perpetuate this lousy excuse for neglectful parenting.
THEN, I calmly replied.
“Bull$hit!” “It’s lazy parenting and there is no excuse.”
I have to say, her response was interesting. She did not argue, in fact it seemed like a tiny flicker of thought was fueled. She smiled a bit and quietly replied, “Yes, if I do that job again, I’ll likely have a different perspective, now that I’m a mom.”
Here’s a stark reality. No matter a person’s economic place, a true parent understands the importance of giving his or her children every possible advantage. A true parent celebrates walking and talking. These skills show future potential. All of this is free to boot! Each family also has a cultural uniqueness, which should be taught and celebrated. Not teaching a child the most fundamental skills is plain and simple neglect. Poverty is no excuse.
Pathetically, society is currently teaching a generation of parents that if they are incompetent long enough, the government will make parenting, house calls. There was a time when being a neglectful parent was seen as a negative. It still should be.